Ashley Madison
Still the king of the “affair” sites. Massive user base, global reach, and built specifically for discreet encounters. You can sign up as a man, woman, or couple. Women can use it for free, while men need to buy credits to message. Profiles are vague by design, and the blurred images with “unlock photo” options are everywhere. The chat system is polished and lets you flirt with a few pre-written icebreakers. Mobile app works well.
Pricing: Credits start at $59 for 100; messages cost ~5 credits to initiate, ~30 to unlock photos.
Pros: Active women, especially in metro areas. Discreet.
Cons: Can get expensive quickly. Lots of bots and fake accounts if you're not careful.
Verdict: Works, but don’t expect magic. You need to work the inbox and pay to play.

Gleeden
France-based, female-first site popular in Europe. Women have all features free; men pay for credits. The platform markets itself as classy and women-led, but it’s still aimed at cheating. Mostly real women, fewer escorts and bots than Ashley Madison. The interface is modern, sleek, and focused on messaging and profile browsing.
Pricing: Starts around $15 for 25 credits; messages cost about 3 credits each.
Pros: Better female/male ratio than other affair sites. Attractive userbase in European cities.
Cons: Barely usable in the U.S. unless you’re in NYC or LA.
Verdict: Best for European users, French-speaking cities. Dead zone in most of the U.S.

Illicit Encounters
UK-only site. Big in England, especially among older professionals. Most users are 35+ and married. It has the same credit-based model as Ashley Madison. The layout looks dated, and the profile builder is clunky. That said, the users are mostly real. There’s less pressure here—more conversation and fewer quick hookups.
Pricing: £119 for a basic monthly package, or buy credits for features.
Pros: Realistic conversations. Niche audience.
Cons: Very UK-specific. Outdated UX.
Verdict: Solid for UK married daters, useless elsewhere.

Victoria Milan
Similar to Ashley Madison but with a European twist. Promotes itself as “anonymous cheating.” It hides your real photo until unlocked and has a panic button to switch screens instantly. The app’s layout is okay, but search is weak. A lot of ghost profiles, and messaging is clunky.
Pricing: Subscription model—$39.99/month for 3-month plans.
Pros: Discreet tools. Some hot profiles.
Cons: Weak matching. Many inactive accounts.
Verdict: Mid-tier experience. You’re better off on Ashley Madison unless you’re in Scandinavia.

NoStringsAttached.com
Classic affair/hookup hybrid. AdultFriendFinder-style layout, very little polish. The profiles often have sexual content. Most of the site is about uploading videos, watching webcam girls, and casual hookups. The “married affair” angle is mostly a keyword for traffic.
Pricing: $29.95/month base plan.
Pros: Plenty of adult content. Easy access to dirty chats.
Cons: Overrun with bots, fake profiles, and sex workers.
Verdict: Good if you want a raunchy distraction. Terrible for a discreet, real-world affair.

HeatedAffairs
Same parent company as NoStringsAttached, but this one leans into the affair vibe harder. Still, it's mostly adult content, nudity, and webcam shows. Very few genuine conversations. Lots of people promoting OnlyFans, cam shows, or fake profiles.
Pricing: $29.95/month with upsells everywhere.
Pros: Instant nudity.
Cons: All about adult content, not affairs.
Verdict: Not useful unless you're just looking to watch or flirt with a performer.

MaritalAffair.co.uk
Niche UK site, simple interface, limited features. The profiles are sparse, but there are some real people. Very text-heavy and low-tech. You have to pay to message anyone. Works okay in London and Manchester.
Pricing: £40/month for messaging privileges.
Pros: Targeted niche, discreet.
Cons: Ugly UI, barely active in smaller towns.
Verdict: Low traffic, only good in specific UK cities.

The Affair Site
Generic affair site with almost no original features. Most users are recycled profiles or placeholders. Chat feels scripted. Men must upgrade to message. Women mostly inactive. Site doesn’t even try to look polished.
Pricing: $49.99/month.
Pros: None worth mentioning.
Cons: Fake profiles, outdated, low engagement.
Verdict: Avoid. Feels like a cash grab.

AdultFriendFinder
Not branded as an affair site, but plenty of married users looking for side flings. Huge user base, adult content, live shows, and chatrooms. Most women on here know the game — they’re either looking for casual fun or selling something.
Pricing: $39.95/month for standard access.
Pros: Real people mixed with entertainment.
Cons: Hard to find someone purely for an affair.
Verdict: Decent alternative if you don’t care about secrecy and just want sex.

Secret Benefits
Sugar-dating platform where many married men go under the radar. Women use it for free. Men must buy credits to send messages or unlock private photos. The sugar angle makes it a grey-zone affair site. Conversations often move to real dates, but it’s transactional.
Pricing: $59 for 100 credits; messaging costs about 10 credits per conversation start.
Pros: Real women, sleek interface.
Cons: Pay-for-play, expectations of gifts or money.
Verdict: Works if you’re okay with sugar dynamics rather than emotional affairs.

What’s Your Price
Auction-style dating site. You pay to bid for dates. Many users are married or discreet, looking for one-time flings. You negotiate an amount (usually $50–$200) and agree to meet. The women are real, mostly from larger U.S. cities.
Pricing: Free to browse. To bid or message, you must purchase credits.
Pros: Fast real-life results.
Cons: Purely transactional, no fantasy or roleplay.
Verdict: Works for meeting someone fast if you have cash. Not great for messaging or long-term flings.

Fling.com
Trashy interface, but still one of the most-used hookup platforms. It markets as a place for cheating, but it’s mostly porn, cam models, and desperate users. No real search filters, lots of fake messages.
Pricing: $34.95/month.
Pros: Good for voyeuristic fun.
Cons: Little to no success getting real meetups.
Verdict: For fantasy only. Zero value if you want actual discreet dates.

CheekyLovers
Another clone affair site with aggressive marketing and poor features. Low-res profiles, a ton of ads, and constant upsells. Might have some real people in your city, but too much noise to filter through.
Pricing: ~$39/month.
Pros: Free sign-up.
Cons: Spammy interface, poor results.
Verdict: Waste of time. There are better options.

DiscreetAdventures
One of the few sites that feels like a hobby project. Limited users, bad interface, no mobile app, and very few real matches. One or two women active per major city.
Pricing: $20–$50/month.
Pros: You’ll stand out if someone is active.
Cons: Basically a ghost town.
Verdict: Pass unless you’re trying every option in your area.